April 17, 2012

Quarter Century

When talking to my mother on the phone recently, I relayed my thoughts about turning 25.

She told me that every year, on her birthday, she allows herself one hour to sit around and mope. She gives herself this limited amount of time to reflect on the year and soak in any feelings of nostalgia or "broodiness" as she calls it. She says that this hour has nothing to do with getting old in a vanity context (you won't catch my mother crying about wrinkles or contemplating botox) but she says, it's more about reflecting on the process of reaching another age and the mixed feelings that can come with that.

Once the hour is up, she goes about her day, practicing gratitude for life and starting fresh. There is no moping or sadness or complaining after that. She gets on with it. 

While I'm turning a big milestone today I can't help but think about the things that lie ahead and behind me. I have been thinking about the responsibilities that come along with getting older and the pressure to achieve certain things. However, today I will try and focus on the new adventures that lie in front of me and believe that wherever I am today, is exactly where I should be. I will not compare myself to other 25 year olds (past or present) and make my own path towards something new. I hope that I don't even use my allotted one hour.

Above is my first gift from my parents: a new pair of "real woman shoes" as I call them and a classic Kate Spade watch.

Here's to another quarter. xx


  1. Happy birthday Amanda! Your mom is a wise lady. 25 Will be an awesome year for you, I just know it :) Also, those shoes are gorgeous.

  2. Mina and Sav are amazing, as are you! Happy birthday to one of the most driven people I know. I am so lucky to have known you for 13ish of your 25 years and can't wait to see what the future has in store for us! Lots of love! xo

  3. I just discovered recetly how cute Kate Spade's accessories are!!
    your watch is awesome. enjoy :)

  4. Happy 25th to you!

    I cry at least once on every birthday. It's not about getting "old." It's mostly that I cry about the things I didn't do, and feeling like another year has passed without accomplishing much. I realize that it's nonsense, because I accomplish plenty of things; I guess I cry for something that's gone, that I'll never get back. It's also kind of funny, because when you think about it, a year is only 365 days...that's not really long at all. I hope you have a fantastic 365 days as a 25 year old =)

  5. Hi,

    I frequent your blog quite often (I am a fan of your writing) and was very compelled to this post. It is SO REFRESHING to know that I am not the only one who feels a sense of loss/anxiety with each birthday that passes, and I am in my early twenties! Your words address emotions that so many women feel as they grow older, regardless of the age (young or old) they currently are

    Keep up the great writing with posts such as these

  6. This is all very new to me and this article really opened my eyes.Thanks for sharing with us your wisdom.