Tuesday, April 3, 2012
Not A Model Mantra - On Advice
You know, like when your mouth is full of sushi and before you can say, "What do you think?" the person in front of you is already spewing their response?
I find that the more people I ask for advice, the harder a decision gets.
The more outward approval we seek, the more difficult it is to listen to that little person in our heads (let's call mine Alfredo). Alfredo understands me, he lives in my heart and tells me what's right. But I don't always want to listen to him (he can be too honest) and instead I seek external validation from others.
This week's Not A Model manta is simple: “I can’t give you a surefire formula for success, but I can give you a formula for failure: try to please everybody all the time."- Herbert Bayard Swope
Lately, I'm trying to ask less and listen more. It's okay to get some differing opinions, as long as you don't change your mind because of other people's perceptions and experiences. You usually know the answer, before you seek it. Remember, the rest is just sushi talk. xx