December 19, 2010

Beyond the Surface

As the holidays are less than a week away and a new year is upon us, I find myself wanting to spend time with the people who encase me in real moments.

People who clear the haze in my head and erase my to-do list for a little while. For when I'm with them, I'm not thinking about my never ending work inbox or when I should get my next hair-cut. It's effortless, relaxed, sweet, fun, intimate and uncontrived. When these people look at you, they really see you. You are not floating above the interaction, or planning your next move; you just are.

The ordinary moments: morning chats with my mother as we sit in the dark eating breakfast because I hate the light, laughing with friends that I've known since I was 11 over red wine and oven baked pizza, driving in the car with my Dad as he picks me up from the train station, conversations over cups of coffee in a tiny place that no one knows about yet, watching baby Daniel do almost anything for the first time, my sister forcing a hug on me as I pretend to be repulsed by her affection as we laugh uncontrollably. 

Last week, I watched Tom Ford's visually stunning film, A Single Man and the final quote of the movie resonated with me:

"A few times in my life I've had moments of absolute clarity, when for a few brief seconds the silence drowns out the noise and I can feel rather than think, and things seem so sharp and the world seems so fresh. I can never make these moments last. I cling to them, but like everything, they fade. I have lived my life on these moments. They pull me back to the present, and I realize that everything is exactly the way it was meant to be." 

With the fuzzy holidays here, spend time with the people who matter and be sure to tell them so. All we have is now, so why waste it on plastic?